Pursue Your Purpose Prior To Pleasure
Updated: Dec 17, 2021
From the very beginning, we want you to know that this isn’t about motivation this is about a movement.
For anyone that has been watching what is happening to men over the last 10 to 15 years the decline of man, year over a year, has been subtle but nevertheless striking. There has been a steadily increasing assault on masculinity leading to the feminization of men, the degradation of the family unit, the emasculation of fathers, and the sensationalism of the myth that there is such a thing as toxic masculinity. It is safer and seemingly nobler to be a criminal than it is to be a man who is noble and strong. It is celebrated for a man to drop his armor and allow the world to strip him of his character and live submissively under the boot heel of the manic feminist movement in the perverted name of progress. Boys who dress as girls are progressive - boys who dress down bullies and fight back are a problem. We are no longer a nation of warriors but instead a sorority of worriers that are afraid to speak up and concerned about what others think. And there was no one to blame but ourselves. Because of the decline of strong male examples in the home, In schools, in books, and in media entertainment, there is no model of a proper man to emulate. Even Superman is gender fluid now. Because our world no requires the survival of the fittest, the weakest of men have found their way into positions of influence, whether in politics, business, or media, and because of their resentment for authentic masculinity, they have waged war on manhood and have become lapdogs for the so-called progressive woke.
In his book, Motivation and Personality, Abraham Maslow states, "What a man can be, he must be". Maslow's quote refers to self-actualization, which is the highest level or stage in his model of human motivation: the 'Hierarchy of Needs. According to the hierarchy of needs, self-actualization represents the highest-order motivations, which drive us to realize our true potential and achieve our 'ideal self'. Self-actualization needs are also referred to as our 'being' needs; these include personal and creative self-growth, which are achieved through the fulfillment of our full potential. For eons, the purpose of man was survival. In order to survive, the man had to thrive in hard conditions and learn to protect himself and his family from the elements or dangers of the wild, and he had to learn to hunt in order to eat. Well, the world has gotten a lot safer and we no longer have to hunt for food. As a result, the man has gotten softer and he turned his biological instinct of hunting game in the wild to the wild game of hunting. Today’s men are now on the proverbial hunt for women and have confused this instinct as their purpose. They use pseudoscientific, truthy-sounding gibberish to rationalize perceived social norms that "men are hardwired to spread their seed" foolishly believing that they have to have sex with as many women as possible (so as to get as many offspring as possible) but women want to be faithful (to have help raising their offspring).
The reality is that neither of these premises today are correct. It would seem that today, men aren’t even needed. We no longer need protection - we have the police. Men no longer are needed for food - McDonald's and the grocery store have taken care of that. Men are not necessary for financial support - more women are out earning their male counterparts than ever before. And please spare me the myth of the gender pay gap. There are many media reports of a gender gap, often claiming that women are paid only about 80% of what men are paid. But that number is comparing the total amount of salary paid to men and to women in this country. It does not take into account such crucial factors as profession, qualifications, type of employer, seniority, hours worked, or many other things that go into deciding compensation. When these basic factors are taken into account, the gender pay gap vastly decreases.
In the very near future, men will no longer be needed for procreation. There are fertility experts in the world that believe women will be able to reproduce without male input in the next few decades. In fact, researchers at the Chinese Academy of Sciences reported that they’d used gene editing to create 29 healthy baby mice using stem cells from female mice alone.
So now that men are finding themselves nearly obsolete, the weakest of the group submit like sheep to the false narrative and swallow the blue pill just to be a part of a society that imposes manufactured indignation on men. Then there is another majority that may not see the matrix but are lost, confused, angry, and depressed because they have no purpose or have made the wrong things their purpose - like pursuing women ahead of pursuing purpose.
Let me be absolutely clear here - there is nothing wrong with pursuing women, or dating, or having a loving relationship. However, because of the fickle nature of relationships and dating, pursuing women as your driving meaning is as empty as your bank account. Women may come and go, but a good investment, a good education or skill in a trade, the business you want to start - those things more often get better and move valuable with time.
The need for purpose is rooted in eons of generational evolution. If you consider Maslow’s Hierarchy of
The stats tell us that unemployment and a lack of purpose affect men profoundly, significantly increasing the likelihood of substance addiction, self-harm, and unstable mental health.
In the book, “Men without Work” by Nicholas Eberstadt, a world-renown economist, he stated, “more than seven million [guys] alone between the ages of twenty-five and fifty-five …” are not even looking for suitable employment, or doing anything else productive. The rationale given was low morale.
While the anti-men sentiment is especially pernicious in the United States, because of the decline of fertility rates, countries across the globe are begging people to have more sex. It all got so bad that in 2007, the Russian government declared 12 September the official Day of Conception – where people get the day off for making babies.
The is good news. Hope is not lost. It’s not all doom and gloom. You still can find your purpose. Whether you’re 16 or 61. The very first this you have to do is: Take ownership of your life. Instead of asking yourself, “What should I do with my life?” ask yourself, ““What can I do with my time that is important?” Then do that shit. Important things give your life meaning and happiness. This is probably the summary of true masculinity – taking responsibility for myself, and also for the people entrusted to my care. I can’t do that when I’m aimless, unfulfilled, or ill-resourced. We can keep blaming the government, our upbringing, that legal battle, our former addiction, whatever. Nothing will change until we man up and take charge.
Second, if you fail to plan, then plan to fail. The next question I want you to ask yourself is, “What am I going to do when shit gets hard or falls apart?” This is a critically important question to answer because as sure as I’m standing here today, it’s going to be hard, you’re going to want to quit, you’re probably going to fail. You HAVE TO know how you are going to react. Because if you don’t plan for it, your natural instinct will be to quit. You need to know how you’re going to fight back once you get punched in the face.
Then, who is your tribe? This one is going to be the hardest question to answer and then live by your answer. You are the sum of the 5 closest you associate with. And unfortunately, those in your tribe now may be doing you more harm than good. You don’t necessarily have to cut them completely out of your life, but if you’re going to level up you don’t have time trying to pull others along (trust us, it never works out). Get yourself a mentor, Some of the most rewarding and powerful wisdom in my life has come from older men I have intentionally sought out to learn from. Find a man you want to be like, and throw yourself in front of him. Drop the entitled millennial act and offer to buy him dinner and be available to work around his schedule. You won’t regret it.
Being an authentic man is hard, real hard. If it were easy - everyone would do it. Pursue your purpose. Postpone indulgences. Once you have achieved your purpose you will be spoiled for choice. I believe you have what it takes, I KNOW you have what it takes. But that doesn’t mean anything. it doesn’t mean a damn thing if you don’t conceive it, if you don’t believe it, you will never achieve it.